So, do you think an adult person living with a doll does that because he is a weirdo or because there is a deep need for human interaction that many people just can't get? Well, though the weirdo answer might be a more popular one, there is something to be said about the reasons people have for having this kind of behaviour. I watched this amazing documentary the other day entitled Guys and Dolls and I have to say that it was some kind of eye- opener for me. In the sense that it portrayed a phenomenon I once thought of being nothing else than a myth, but here it was a reality that I simply couldn’t handle. The main idea of the film revolves around a kind of habit some people have of living, sharing their beds and having a genuine relationship with human-sized dolls. That’s right, the kind of dolls people use for simulation of sex partners when they want to masturbate. I for one always thought that this dolls are made exactly for that and that only. Nevertheless, it looks as if there are people out there who think about this toys in a different way. A much deeper way.
So, the question which we all have to be asking ourselves is are this people insane or their behaviour is just a consequence of the crazy and recluse society we a lll live in? I really think that the latter is hinting towards the reasons of this kind of behaviour. At least, this way there is still a way out for these people. A way in which they might be understood, loved and cherished. The first story in this documentary is that of a guy called Davecat who lives in Michigan and has a thousand dollar life-size doll for love and life partner. Through out the documentary he seems to be doing nothing else than giving a justification for his love and choice. Hinting towards the fact that in the world we live today, it is almost impossible to find a partner of the opposite sex that wouldn’t disappoint you in one way or the other. That it is almost impossible to be in a committed relationship and expect the same amount of care and attention you give in return. Though that might be true (yes indeed, I’m also coming to the conclusion that all this stuff we call relationships are a doomed and flawed concept), it is quite hard to imagine what kind of hardship Davecat must have gone through to end up in the arms, though loving, of a doll. I mean, there are people out there who have had a much worse time in relationships, some of who have ended up killing themselves and others just stopped believing in exclusive relationships all together, but definitely not dolls, right?
As you go on watching the movie, you start getting the idea that this way of approaching love and relationships is actually quite widespread and there is a genuinely large community of doll-lovers all over the world with the same need for love and understanding. This need for love sometimes goes to the realm of the absurd. You get that when you hear one of these doll-lovers say, "Swedes don't have any problem donating their pubic hair”. This just opens the door to the idea that people are so deeply involved in this "hobby" that they are ready to go for realism at any cost. Moreover it shows that though they sleep and live with dolls there is still some inner voice telling them that human interaction is what they are looking for.
As I mentioned earlier, this movie was a real eye-opener for me. Not only because it showed me an issue that I didn’t know anything about, but also showed me some of the most evil consequences of the evil society we all live in. The level of egoism we have this days, doesn’t just make me think that the world is full of Crazy People, but equally shows that this tendency we have of putting our ego before everything else can lead to others living their lives in solitude and despair and the very idea of me becoming a misanthrope myself became sickening. You see, with all the disappointments and annoyance I get from “people” these days I’m slowly, but surely turning into what I’ve despised most about humanity - a recluse and asocial creep. And though that’s a sad reality, it is an undeniable fact and trend which seems to have no solution whatsoever. Deep need for Peace, Love & Unity, please help…
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