What is a knot?

Hello everyone I know that you are out there thinking that Denis must be out of ideas regarding his blog and have decided to write about bizarre stuff like knots. Well, you're absolutely wrong on this one once more.

Indeed, what I'm trying to say in this post is something which is actually deep, profound and very important to me.

You see the thing is that I'm not a philosopher and I don't really know how to express myself using all those bookish and hyper - formal expressions often used by people of that caliber  But what I'm definitely not, is a person who has no opinion at all. I think I always have something to say and that's what I'm going to do right now.

So, “Knots”. I think what I mean by this is not “Knots” as in bonding and networking we have between each other, but rather those knots we tie when we have an unresolved situation or issue between you and another person. Not clear yet? Well, let me try to explain what I mean by this. Let's take the most casual situation where a knot can be made. Imagine a couple which has just broken up and has an issue which remained unresolved. For instance one of them had an affair and they decided to make it a taboo topic in their family life or a pregnancy which ended up in an unfortunate miscarriage and was never talked through as it should have been or the usual rants with in – laws and the misunderstanding brought forth by it which stays forever. All this things and much more can really appear as a “Knot” in these people's life, perpetually stopping them from living a life free from worries and I guess stress, too.

And this goes as well with all other aspects of our life from relationships to work. The point is we all have these knots and if we acknowledge this fact, then the question that goes with this is “What can we possibly do with this?”. Well, here is where my ideas come to an end. Some might say that you can go to a psychologists and try to solve this issue and you might be right doing that (unlike majority of my friends and close ones, I have nothing against psychology as a means of treatment except the fact that this field is usually associated with systematic medication of its patients). As for me, I would rather try to solve this issue by using common sense. That's right don't forget that as humans we all have a brain and as I said in one of my posts, it will be a good idea to use it!!!

So how do I deal with this issue, right? Well if you come to the understanding that “Knots” are those things that really hold you back whenever you think about them or whenever you face a situation similar to it, then it will be logical that the best solution to this will be simply forgetting this situations or deleting them form our memory and mind. But as we all know we do have a brain and as a consequence of that we do have memory. So, there isn't a person on this planet yet, who can delete portions of his memory at will. So what I advice you to do (at least this worked for me) is of facing the challenge of dealing head – on with this situation. What I mean is that if there is an unresolved issue that's bugging you, go on and deal with it. Don't you dare taking the position of “I don't want to discuss this or that, right now or I don't want to hurt anyone by rising this or that issue”. Yes it can be problematic to discuss a tedious and heart breaking issue with this or that person, but I really think that it's not worse than simply keeping it within yourself and having a grudge on this or that person. I for one have recently met with a friend I lost touch with due to the fact that he became a less interesting person for me (yeah it happens quite often with me. You know being bored by a person and then loosing touch with him). So, back to this friend of mine. You see, we as usually in this cases, just stopped communicating and I guess that's just yet another “Knot”. So when we met, it was such a relieve for me that I could finally spend this time casually without thinking about the issues we both had regarding each other...So, go on guys time to untie our knots. Really makes things easier.